I responded in a different thread in which you posted, to this; but I'll elaborate, here.
If your boyfriend is unwilling to continue having non-penatrative (vaginal) sex with you, indulging you in bondage, only for your sake, because he claims you are the only one who is turned on by it - does that really sound like something that could truly be very satisfying, for either party involved, in the long run? Do you truly want to be permanently devoted to a man who doesn't share your same enthusiasm about bondage? It's a big deal. It's a part of who you are. For me, that would be a deal breaker in a relationship.
It's not like just preferring iced tea, over a Coke, or romantic comedies, over science fiction, or a baguette over rye bread . It's huge! It'll be even more of a big deal, when you actual marry someone, and find out you want extremely different things, in the bedroom, and are unable to reach a happy median. By then, it's too late, and the passion you feel for that person, has dried up, before it even got half a chance to flourish, over the years, had you been with the right person.
Another poster mentioned making up the pros and cons list, of what it's like, being with your boyfriend. I would urge you to do that, as well, and carefully weigh the pros against the cons. You're a young woman, with plenty of time to find the man who is compatible with you, in all the ways that are most important to you. It is the rare man who is willing to wait until marriage, for sex (especially while practicing bondage with a woman) - but they are out there, as rare as they may be. Don't be discouraged by what you hear from others. And don't be afraid to be alone, for a while, while seeking out the right one, if that's what you decide to do. If you're worried about not having a boyfriend - don't. It's okay to be alone, rather than being in a relationship with someone for all the wrong reasons. It took me forever to figure this one out. I had to always be in a relationship with a woman, after a break-up. I couldn't stand even the thought of being alone. I didn't think it was possible, but I was wrong. But we learn, with time (I'm fifty-two), and hopefully (lol) we make new mistakes, rather than the same ones, over and over again
You'll figure it out. I wish you the best, whatever you decide to do.
