Downtime

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New Master
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My wife and I have dabbled in the D/s lifestyle and bdsm. I don't have any problems thinking of activities while I have her in bondage, but I have problems thinking of activities and commands when she's not in bondage. I'm looking for suggestions for private and public.

Thank you

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My wife and I have previously dabbled in bdsm but usually the inexperience and lack of knowledge usually kills our experimentation until the next time. Recently, she approached me telling me she wants to be my sub 24/7.

Part of my inexperience and lack of knowledge comes from not having ideas what to do when I don't have her bounded. We both work and have kids, so things need to be fairly mild when we're not in the bedroom. I'm looking for advice to keep the D/s and bdsm play going 24/7. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

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Re: Downtime

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One of the best things you can do to maintain an aspect of D/s all the time is develop protocols. These can be very simple things, such as how you are addressed, specific things she must do before everyday activities, or rituals you perform (even simple things like how she makes your coffee in the morning or how she presents it to you).

Small reminders are very powerful and they can be integrated into your daily routine fairly easily. 24/7 doesn't mean you are playing all the time. It is more of a mindset.

Think of things you would like her to do which would make your life easier or better and build your protocols around that. A small thing, for example, may be that she needs to ask permission before she starts eating during meal time.

Don't overdo it at first. Introduce new things slowly and make sure they have a purpose for you and are not frivolous. The most important thing in maintaining structure is consistency, so don't create rules or protocols you aren't willing to enforce.

Hope that helps!
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It helps a lot. Thank you.

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