How to tell my wife what to do

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How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby Ballgag-me » Fri Dec 22, 2017 12:32 am

I’ve always loved being tied up and since I got married, my wife and I have played around with my fetish. She’s a pretty good sport about it even though I assume she’s not totally into it like I am.

The issue is that she is always worried about me being uncomfortable and to be quite frank, she’s too nice :p

Any suggestions on how I teach her how to be a good ‘mistress’?
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby this_girl » Fri Dec 22, 2017 3:47 pm

Ballgag-me wrote:I’ve always loved being tied up and since I got married, my wife and I have played around with my fetish. She’s a pretty good sport about it even though I assume she’s not totally into it like I am.

The issue is that she is always worried about me being uncomfortable and to be quite frank, she’s too nice :p

Any suggestions on how I teach her how to be a good ‘mistress’?


I don't know if this will work but try turning the tables on her. Offer to tie her up -- nothing too severe, just so she is helpless an at your mercy. tease her gently but stop as soon as she asks you to stop.

Either she will like it, not like it but understand why you like it or hate it so much that she takes revenge on you next time she ties you up.

Alternatively, it could be a complete disaster so discuss it thoroughly first.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby Mully » Sat Dec 23, 2017 10:55 pm

Yes this works.
Mine wasn't so into it until I tied her and Hitachi'd and teased the living daylights out of her.
Tons of fun :)
Now she's happy to take revenge and we can both play.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby Cd Tammy » Fri Jan 05, 2018 10:18 pm

I have the same problem. Here’s how I have been handling it. My girlfriend lets me wear pantyhose or tights during our bondage adventures but really hasn’t expressed interest in my going farther with that. When she restrains me, she’s not that creative, and sometimes I think that I could get free without too much difficulty.

When we do a bondage adventure, I tell her that I will secure myself at a certain time. She is free to arrive whenever she wishes. She can come right away or later but I will be helplessly secured until she arrives. Before the time, I laid out a wooden spoon, a ping pong paddle, a riding crop, and a belt. All lined up and ready. I put out some additional restraints, zip ties, and rope. Again lined up. Then I secured myself using a spreader bar and wide Velcro ankle restraints. I had a chain suspended from a hard point that I’ve hidden under a fake smoke detector on the ceiling. I pulled a nylon hood over my head, that has a blindfold sewn in, and then added the largest ballgag. The final step was to handcuff my hands above my head, high up on chain.

I had secured myself early, so I was feeling it when she got there. I wasn’t in pain but I had discomfort in my wrists, arms, mouth, ankles, and toes. I did say that I went high on the chain. She got the hint. Me there helpless, my ass facing her, and a line of things to use on it. Her first smack was a bit timid but I may have squirmed a bit extra for her. She liked the red marks through the pantyhose and that got me a few harder licks.

Seeing all the other restraints, as well as the cage and a saw horse set up, I think she saw that I was willing. She kept me helpless until morning but did move me to other positions. I’ve discovered she likes me blindfolded or hooded when she in charge.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby this_girl » Fri Jan 12, 2018 4:42 pm

Cd Tammy wrote: I’ve discovered she likes me blindfolded or hooded when she in charge.


Have you considered wearing a sensory-deprivation hood (just add ear plugs) so that way you do not know when, or if, your girlfriend arrives ...

Anything that she does to you will be a complete surprise.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby Cd Tammy » Fri Jan 12, 2018 5:01 pm

this_girl wrote:
Cd Tammy wrote:I’ve discovered she likes me blindfolded or hooded when she in charge.


Have you considered wearing a sensory-deprivation hood (just add ear plugs) so that way you do not know when, or if, your girlfriend arrives ...

Anything that she does to you will be a complete surprise.


I actually have. As it happens, tonight happens to be one of our Bondage Adventure nights as she calls them. My way of getting her to go farther has been to go further myself. Prior to 4 PM, I am to put myself into self-bondage. I plan to restrain myself using a wooden ankle hobble. My hands will be handcuffed behind my back with the cuffs attached to a strap that keeps them pulled up my back toward my neck. This usually puts me in the forehead and knees down, but up position. She likes my butt being up. I will have my spandex hood with the blindfold on, and a ballgag. Per your suggestion, I’m going to put a pair of over the ear noise canceling headphones on with something turned up on. I will have no idea how long I am waiting or if she has arrived until she takes her first action. Probably a hard swat. Excellent suggestion.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby this_girl » Fri Jan 12, 2018 5:08 pm

I'm jealous. I wish you lots of pleasure.
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Re: How to tell my wife what to do

Unread postby tiemeupalso » Fri Jan 12, 2018 6:43 pm

does she have a kinky sister?i am jealous too.
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