Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

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Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby bootsleatherbondage » Sat Dec 26, 2020 2:28 pm

Ive told my girlfriend how I love it when she ties me up and would love for it to happen more often, she answers she'll do it when she feels like it ;) We have plenty of gear and toys, some are even really quick and dont require much effort from her part. It happens once every few months or so.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to make it happen more often?
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby tiemeupalso » Sat Dec 26, 2020 6:04 pm

do self bondage,let her find you and she can make it inescapable with only one knot or lock
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby dsteve » Sat Dec 26, 2020 6:37 pm

tell her you would like to be tied then forced to give her oral.
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby vm1971 » Sat Dec 26, 2020 9:09 pm

If you haven't, you should probably ask her why she's not up for doing this more often. Maybe she finds it distasteful. Maybe she loses her mojo by the time you're done up and ready because it's not exactly spontaneous. Maybe you're not servicing her needs in an equally proportionate fashion.

Relationships are about compromise. Find out what she really likes and wants and offer it up in the manner that suits her.
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby bootsleatherbondage » Sun Dec 27, 2020 9:35 am

tiemeupalso wrote:do self bondage,let her find you and she can make it inescapable with only one knot or lock


tried that, sometimes works sometimes not
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby bootsleatherbondage » Sun Dec 27, 2020 9:39 am

dsteve wrote:tell her you would like to be tied then forced to give her oral.


told her many times, rarely works
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby bootsleatherbondage » Sun Dec 27, 2020 9:46 am

vm1971 wrote:If you haven't, you should probably ask her why she's not up for doing this more often. Maybe she finds it distasteful. Maybe she loses her mojo by the time you're done up and ready because it's not exactly spontaneous. Maybe you're not servicing her needs in an equally proportionate fashion.

Relationships are about compromise. Find out what she really likes and wants and offer it up in the manner that suits her.


Ive asked she said no reason just its not fun for her anymore, ill try and service her needs even more see if that works!
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby Stahlketten » Mon Dec 28, 2020 6:55 pm

Heed the warning signs. Things probably won't get better after you get married.
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Re: Tips to get my girlfriend to tie me up more often?

Unread postby lotharj » Mon Dec 28, 2020 8:45 pm

Stahlketten wrote:Heed the warning signs. Things probably won't get better after you get married.


Exactly this!!

First long time partner had casual interest in bondage at best. Didn't realize how important this is for me at the time, left them after 10 struggling years, and now have a 2nd partner who is fanatical about it.
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