I feel like selfbondage is a waste

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I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby nibrocd » Fri Jun 27, 2014 3:38 am

I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm. Any tips or ideas to help solve this
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby Petrajane » Fri Jun 27, 2014 8:21 am

I find SB works best when I imagine a scenario like I've been kidnapped (or tied up by a burglar) and tied to a chair or in a hogtie on the floor or on a bed. Blindfolded, gagged however takes his warped mind.

Then once I've cum, rather than struggle to free myself, imagine has the kidnapper finished with me, has the ransom being paid or has the burglar finished searching for my jewellery or not? In either case, if they've not finished with me, then I'll have to wait until they have and carry on struggling to free myself, failing of course, and see how many times I can cum before my (imaginary) captor has finished with me.
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby Imhotep » Fri Jun 27, 2014 10:28 am

I find it incredibly hard to stay in the bondage after I've cum. I guess it's all about about training the mind?
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby Franzia » Fri Jun 27, 2014 3:58 pm

If the main or only purpose of SB is climax, then yes- once it's reached interest can quickly fade. The only way I can continue past that point is with an imagination like Petrajane! :D

Kidnapped, blindfolded, gagged & tied or wrapped on a bed. Was the ransom paid? Did something happen to the kidnappers? Maybe ransom wasn't the goal??

Did a burglar find what he or she was searching for and disappear, forgetting about me?

Perhaps I'm a blindfolded and unknowing subject of a photo shoot?

When I registered at a mysterious bondage society I never expected this... can do nothing but squirm while waiting for transport.... ;)
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby d3vious.g3nius » Fri Jun 27, 2014 9:01 pm

Simple answer/less verbiage, self-bondage requires IMAGINATION! :lol: Otherwise yeah, it is a waste of time ;)
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby theemaster » Sun Jun 29, 2014 8:15 pm

nibrocd wrote:I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm. Any tips or ideas to help solve this

Don't orgasm? the idea in the fiction is prolong the longing, wanting, whatever.. it's maybe not possible with todays technology.
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby happily_locked » Tue Jul 01, 2014 8:47 pm

It's VERY possible. Just lock on a chastity device (cheap now from Amazon!) and put the keys where they are unavailable.
Perhaps park your car on the street, leave chastity keys in glove compartment. Lock it, and lock the car!
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby barbara desmonsche » Sat Jul 05, 2014 1:50 am

happily_locked wrote:It's VERY possible. Just lock on a chastity device (cheap now from Amazon!) and put the keys where they are unavailable.
Perhaps park your car on the street, leave chastity keys in glove compartment. Lock it, and lock the car!



My thoughts exactly, a chastity device. :D

i am kept in a chastity device 24/7 by my Wife, & have been continuously since January 15th of this year. i have had a few chances to do self bondage during this time & look forward to trying new ideas, or old ones that i have proven to work safely & extend the bondage time in them. For example, i use a standing position at times in my highest, 6-1/2" pumps to make it strict. Rope is wrapped & tied under the heels & over the feet to keep the shoes on & the feet together.

My legs are bound together at my ankles, below the knees, above the knees & at the thighs with rope. There is a thick leather belt that locks & has D-Rings every several inches all the way around it. This is very handy for locking my wrist restraints to, especially behind my back. The leather hood, posture collar, blindfold & head harness are all locking. The head harness is connected to a chain that is hooked to an eye bolt in the overhead beam. This keeps me balanced & prevents tipping over.

If i do tip, it isn't very far so there is no tension on my head or neck because i am standing perfectly upright & the chain is tight without any slack. Sometimes i stand on a large, flat, piece of wood with an eye bolt that anchors my feet to prevent any lateral movement. Once this is all set up & locked the last thing i do is bring my wrists together & use padlocks to attach the wrist restraints to the locked belt. i have to wait for the ice timer to drop the key to that last lock to free myself.

This position, even without the chastity device, would prevent me from bringing myself to orgasm until i had reached the full length of time remaining locked. It is very exciting to never know exactly when you are going to be released. Adding more ice means remaining locked for a very long time. The longest i was in this position had been several hours. It really plays with your mind because there is always that doubt whether the rope with the key is hung up on something.

And i never, ever, ever use a gag when i am doing self bondage where i cannot reach the gag & remove it in seconds. It's nice, but i just can't take the chance of choking.
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby mrmaxroper » Thu Jul 24, 2014 8:57 pm

Orgasm will generally end the desire for bondage - especially in males. The secret for me: Avoid the orgasm. I prefer to ride the edge as long as possible. Orgasms are great but only last a few seconds. The feelings just before orgasm can be frustrating but are quite pleasurable and (with years of practice) I'm able to stay there for a long time.
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Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

Unread postby lanad » Sun Nov 29, 2015 12:46 pm

Interesting statement, I used to tie myself up to orgasm, but soon learnt that it was the rope around my body that was exciting, so my period of bondage became longer and longer, I then began then to tease my self with electro stimulation on a timer, and over the years learnt that I can hold my self on the edge for up to 45min with a long rest in-between, I can then repeat the pleasure, or I could make it painful to the point that I could not bare it any more, so by mixing pain and pleasure in inescapable bondage makes the desire to break free or stay as you are a mind game. so NO I don't think it's a wast of time.
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