Am I Alone?

[Tesgri]

It seems like chastity is a field dominated (haha) by men, zero issue with that of course but I am just curious. Am I the only woman here who enjoys it? I've had a belt for a long time, about five years or so, eventually got the bra and thigh cuffs to complete the set. Just a week ago I got my second, more secure, belt and am acclimatizing myself to it. The wife often holds the keys but we've not gone much over 24 hours with the new belt yet.

Any other woman out there into chastity (on themselves)?

[tiemeupalso]

you u are one lucky person

[Tesgri]

you u are one lucky person

How do you figure? It's not really a topic I've been able to share or discuss with anybody.

[d3vious.g3nius]

How do you figure? It's not really a topic I've been able to share or discuss with anybody.

How is it that you don't have anyone to share or discuss with? In the "Re: Do Friends,Family,CoWorkers know your into Bondage" thread you stated:

Pretty much all of my friends know too, most of them are just as kinky as I am, and of course my wife knows and has been in the lifestyle for longer than we've been together so that's great fun.

I'm a bit confused, sorry.

Unless you mean specifically another woman who is into chastity exactly as yourself?
- d.g

[Tesgri]

The latter mostly. My wife enjoys holding the keys but isn't into it herself.

[rmcingle]

I have chatted with several women who were locked in chastity, so you certainly are not alone, although I will admit that you are probably a minority compared to the number of men that are into it.

One of the women that I used to chat with occasionally was a lesbian pair, and they were both locked in chastity, each holding the other's key.

I agree with what another poster said about you being lucky, because you have a partner that is holding the key. There are a lot of people who would like to be even more into chastity control but lack a keyholder. About a decade ago my wife was willing to be my keyholder, and I was locked essentially 24/7 for two years before she decided that she didn't want to participate any more.

Most of us who are into chastity control can only discuss it in online forums such as this. So, let me ask you: does being locked in the chastity belt have a positive effect on you? (such as how you behave, attentiveness to your partner, etc.)

For me, one of my faults was an excessive amount of masturbation, generally while viewing online porn. I felt that being locked in the chastity device made a big difference towards my relationship. I became a lot more attentive as masturbation had been outlawed and the only way I was getting relief was to get my wife into the mood so that she would want to have intercourse.

Ron

[Tesgri]

I suppose my title was a bit of an exaggeration, I know I'm not alone in the interest for woman, but it would still be nice to talk to others interested as I am for the more, female specific, aspects of being belted.

I can certainly agree I'm lucky to have found a wife who holds my keys when she feels like it. We've never gone for very long before she gives them back, out of either disinterest or concern for my well being (she worries the belt hurts me, it's sweet, even if the belt is just fine). I hope to at least, with the belt I just acquired a bit over a week ago (had one for years but this new one is more secure) be in it longer.

I do think wearing a belt has a positive affect on me, I was never really one for excessive, or even really much at all, masturbation but there was always the sense of "well I can just do it later if I feel like it". With a belt it's more like, well now I feel like it and I can't so I have to wait for the wife to be ready and then it becomes about us rather than just me. So in a sense the same thing as you.

You know, come to think of it, I should apologize for being so dismissive, for some reason I just didn't think of the fact that the psychological and physical would be similar between us. I'm sorry. *hugs*

[passioncraftstore]

I find it wildly sexy

[dsteve]

speaking of gender differences, it seems that there are way more women into submission than dominance, and the reverse for men. Makes it hard for submissive men to find what they are looking for.
I believe in Darwinism so I wonder what survival advantage is given by a male being submissive. Where is the logic?

[lotharj]

Darwinism is based on evolution which is based on genetic mutation. Quite simply men being submissive may likely be a recessive trait being that it is infrequent and seemingly has no advantage.

Or it could simply be environmental where there was either no gender stereotype male role model available or some sort of emotional trauma.

My partner being dominant is the result from their environmental trauma and in the minority as well.

Neither one of us is into chastity, though I personally don't mind if that is something my dom would want. Likely redundant given that I am rarely alone and not completely restrained.

[tiemeupalso]

a chastity bely with bra is one of the sexiest ways i like to see women

[Tesgri]

a chastity bely with bra is one of the sexiest ways i like to see women

I agree, even on me, sadly my tits got to big for my chastity bra and I've been unable to find one (although honestly not searched very hard) that fits. Also, everyone's broke these days I think. Hehe.

[Natyropes]

I have never been in chastity but I have a question for those who know more about it. Doesn't the continuous use of these devices cause some kind of damage to the skin? I don't know, irritation, sensitivity or things like that?

[Tesgri]

It does. For me mostly around my hips. And that's due to sweat build up and friction. It can lead to small rashes or sore spots - but with proper care (ie cleaning, adjusting, making sure no spot is being rubbed just because the belt is sitting funny, etc) can alleviate them. Of course taking the belt off, using lotion, can deal with them really fast. As with anything there is some "callous" that can form, not actual callous' but you at least get used to the irritation.

Depending on how trimmed someone is can change things too, we got hair there for a reason and it will protect the skin from some discomfort, though not all.

[lotharj]

It does. For me mostly around my hips. And that's due to sweat build up and friction. It can lead to small rashes or sore spots - but with proper care (ie cleaning, adjusting, making sure no spot is being rubbed just because the belt is sitting funny, etc) can alleviate them. Of course taking the belt off, using lotion, can deal with them really fast. As with anything there is some "callous" that can form, not actual callous' but you at least get used to the irritation.

I've never worn any chastity device long term, but have a collar /cuffs on most of the week. Agree with Tesgri on the "callous" thing that happens. Although with my original leather and stainless collars they started to irritate randomly even after being worn a long time. I believed they accumulated organic material on them that caused reactions.

My silicon collar/cuffs from Stockroom is the best long term restraints. If they get a little funky and cause itching randomly, a trip in the dishwasher gets them fresh.

[Tesgri]

I can attest to the collar thing too. I've worn my steel collar 24/7 for 16 years (since I was 18) and it's something you have to keep clean and lubricate every now and then. Especially in the summer. Though as an aside a steel collar in summer can also be a blessing, a quick trip into the freezer with it before putting it back on can be an awesome way to cool down.

Really it comes down to humans are messay, our skin (as gross as it may seem) is constantly sloughing off and it gets caught in hinges, locks, linings etc. The silicone of a belt is that much more prone to the collection of grime and that becomes an irritant.

Keep clean (for woman that is a decent sized task when belted, it can be tough to get the water/soap etc in there without a detachable shower head or some such), keep moving it about, take breaks even if you dislike the idea of it breaking the fantasy of being locked away 24/7, and you'll be just fine.