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A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2020 7:18 am
by restricted
Not from this site, but I got an email from a girl who found out her boyfriend loves to cross dress and asked why. He couldn't tell her.

I explained as best I could. 1/ It helps relax him as he would give up his responsibility of having to make the decisions. If she helped him, she might like the power she gets, especially if she tells him what he has to wear that day. I find that if the girl wore trousers or jeans, it puts me at a level where I have to do as I am told.
2/ The female has many different styles of clothes from microskirts to ball gowns. In many different materials. Men's clothes are tough hard wearing where as women's clothes are softer and react better on their male parts.
3/ In a skirt and knickers, it makes his undercarriage more accessible to her, whereas he would have to undo zips and buttons to get to her.
4/ Sometimes as a child his mother used to put dresses on him so he retains somewhere in his brain how it felt.

I put a link to this site and others so hopefully she might try it. I told her to try putting make up on him and he would feel powerless against her. I did say I love how although no one can see anything, by bum and cock get a cold draught under the skirt, and I love it when the wind is blowing and I'm in my lightweight skaters skirt.

She knows I cross dress but sadly she lives in another country.

I'll let you know.

Re: A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2020 12:27 pm
by SergioUK
5/ It presses on a man's body in different places, particularly when moving, which may be stimulating.

Re: A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:20 pm
by Natyropes
She may need the help of a psychology specialist to answer that question. but maybe the important thing here is not why but what she's going to do with it? She will support him no matter his fetishes? because in the end it's just a matter of tastes.

Re: A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 22, 2020 9:31 pm
by Stahlketten
Natyropes wrote:She may need the help of a psychology specialist to answer that question. but maybe the important thing here is not why but what she's going to do with it? She will support him no matter his fetishes? because in the end it's just a matter of tastes.


While we would like to believe in the ideal partner that is accepting of our fetishes and oddities no matter what they might be, that may not be the reality in many cases. There are as many stories of couples that did not stay together because one mate could not learn to deal with the other's fetish. What is really sad are those cases in which the couple seems quite happy and content for a time until one person comes to the realization that they cannot learn to tolerate the other's fetish even though they have played along perhaps even for several years.

Re: A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Tue Jun 23, 2020 9:45 pm
by Natyropes
Stahlketten wrote:
Natyropes wrote:She may need the help of a psychology specialist to answer that question. but maybe the important thing here is not why but what she's going to do with it? She will support him no matter his fetishes? because in the end it's just a matter of tastes.


While we would like to believe in the ideal partner that is accepting of our fetishes and oddities no matter what they might be, that may not be the reality in many cases. There are as many stories of couples that did not stay together because one mate could not learn to deal with the other's fetish. What is really sad are those cases in which the couple seems quite happy and content for a time until one person comes to the realization that they cannot learn to tolerate the other's fetish even though they have played along perhaps even for several years.


Yes. This is true. It was almost my case. My wife knows about my crossdressing but she didn't like knowing about it. I think she tolerates fairly well this situation and often helps me with pleasure. But I think it was my mistake because I didn't tell her anything BEFORE we were married but after. Whenever I think about it, I think I wasn't fair to her.

Re: A girl wanted to know why men cross dress.

Unread postPosted: Tue Jun 30, 2020 5:45 pm
by vm1971
Crossdressing is a form of role play, particularly when it comes to bondage.

I role play the helpless damsel. Back then, helpless damsels in TV shows and movies were the only things I had access to growing up even if the bondage itself was pretty poor. You should have seen my reaction the very first time I saw a woman's elbows tied behind her back. "Holy shit, you can do that?" with an almost immediate ejaculation with it.

I don't crossdress without bondage but I will sometimes stay dressed for a while after my bondage is done. I do like the feel of pantyhose on my legs and the sounds of my heels clicking on the floor. Sometimes I will get aroused enough just feeling myself up to go into another session.

In any case, it's always about me visualizing myself as a helpless damsel or secretary.