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Closed_doors wrote:This comes as more of an 'observation' than an idea or suggestion. This is my first experience with a moderated forum and I've found my initial enthusiasm for the site has waned a little. I understand why a forum might need be moderated, especially one that touches on a subject that many would find distasteful.
Other forums I am a member of (including one I moderate) work a little differently. Posts appear instantly they are submitted which allows replies to follow as soon as others read it. On the more active forums, this can result in 20 or more responses in a day, or even less time. The interest amongst members of those forums stays high with many folks adding replies to a thread several times in a day, especially if the discussion is lively. Here, I post something, then have to wait 24-36hrs (Time zones play a part) to see the post, then a further 24-36 to see a response, then my reply sees that almost a week has passed and by then, the thought train for that thread has evaporated. It's the sort of forum that I would only check in on about once a week to make the visit worthwhile, having more than just 1 or 2 posts to read. I also find myself less inclined to post because I don't have the patience to follow that thread for weeks and weeks, just to see where 10 replies might lead. I would bet, many, many of the non-active members would get posting too if this was the case.
Yes, the other forums I am on do get the occasional offensive post, but the moderators simply delete it and warn the sender via PM. A 2nd offensive post sees that member locked out. The people here seem far to intelligent and open-minded to let something as trivial as an 'offensive post' spoil their interest or offend. I see the member list here is at least 10 times greater then any of the other forums I belong to but you get less than 10% of members posting. And, of those active 10% of members, their posts over a month would not even add up to the posts my unmoderated forums with far, far less members get in ONE day. In this past 7 days since joining, I've counted precisely 9 posts, 4 of which were mine. I've had 22 posts this morning alone (7 on 1 thread) on the 'AKRON' forum which has only 55 members but is unmoderated. Its the sort of forum that makes you want to check in 3-4 times a day in case the discussion gets too far ahead of you.
I'm a newbie here and am not trying to change anything. This post is intended to be informative, not critical. It's merely an observation. My interest for the site and all it represents is high. My patience when following a thread here is not. I guess it depends on the membership's desires. If this is what they want, so be it.
Thanks for Reading,
Closed_doors wrote:Far from being deterred, I am encouraged to become more active. I am still reading past threads to try to get a 'feel', so to speak, for the people and personalities here. As I have always suspected, the more intelligent, the more outrageous the fantasy. The feel I get most here is a sense that only a few ever get to indulge to the further edges of their dreams, the rest seek someone to share this with.
I know what that's like. I became adept at self-bondage due to an uninterested ex-spouse. Which developed into a total disinterest in me which is why she's an Ex. But that's not a new tune here. What can I say. Be upfront and 100% honest. If you like being dipped in treacle and flogged with wet spaghetti, tell him/her. Don't just come out and say it. Begin with something simple, like 'what matters most in a relationship'. Build into a discussion and add subject when appropriate. Remember, You can't change people. Yes, people can change, but that's an internal influence.
But you know what matters most? Trust. With out this, you have nothing, zilch, nada, zero.. give up flogging that dead horse. Re-bait the hook and go fishing again. The next 'catch' might be the one. I spent 20 years trying to breathe life back into my previous relationship, about 19.5 years too many. Should have trusted my gut feelings, but oh no. I believed I could resurrect it. More the fool me.
thisis wrote:Can admin have more events or initiatives to get traffic?
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