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FatherOfFour wrote:Hi,
I'm only a couple of years "old" (in kink), almost half century else, and I have two questions:
Why I enjoy pain, self-bondage, and, while realizing how great would be to mix sex into it, I end up without "happy ending"? If my wife would be into kink, I would certainly enjoy sex and bondage, but by myself I find it hard to finish a scene in climax... And I tried...
I know that there are people in bdsm only for the kink, and not for sex, but I _know_ I'd enjoy both! I just cannot step over my christian raising, or education, or love for my wife...
The second question might be politically incorrect (and I apologize beforehand):
I am slightly homophobic! I know it and I admit it! Now, with my late bloom into kink, I'd like to try some CD, maybe anal play... at least to find if I'm into it or not, but I cannot "convince" myself to try - I'm too closed-minded! Every time I bring this subject up (to myself), I remember all our cultural references and name-calling from sub-culture, and there's a plethora!...
What should I do? I lived 40 years in a black and white world, and now discovered not 50 shades... but a full rainbow world!
Thanks in advance for Your understanding,
Have fun, always learn,
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FatherOfFour wrote:- Yet no CD - I like the feeling of silk garments, I don't like the hairy monkey with the Flinstone beard from the mirror...
FatherOfFour wrote:Well, Thank You snego,
I feel I have to report on my evolution:
- Yet no CD - I like the feeling of silk garments, I don't like the hairy monkey with the Flinstone beard from the mirror...
- Also no anal play... But (pun intended) during some ointment application, tried with my finger: It could get interesting, but it _has_ to be sex-related, and I do it only with my wife...
- Pain - plenty of it, mainly from ropes and/or nipple clamps - and it's the best foreplay for making love with my wife...
- No bdsm orgasms - I don't like it alone, I do it with my pure vanilla wife...
My sessions are longer when "home alone", or short bursts of pain, while working night, followed by hard love with my wife, who is happy by the new romance in our lives...
Have fun, I do...
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