Here’s a list of BDSM links.
Enjoy!
This collection of information websites is for and by people with various interests. I’m simply sending you the whole lot and you can peruse texts you find interesting at your leisure over the time.
From my personal perspective: Please take everything other people write or say with a grain of salt. Nobody else can ever determine what you are ‘supposed to like’ or how you are ‘supposed to feel’. Only you can discover what is good for you, here and now, by trying out things that interest you, leaving aside things that don’t interest you, and by being honest to yourself and the person(s) you are with. Don’t ever pretend that you like or want something you don’t. Don’t ever assume that you know what another person likes or doesn’t like – ask them what their own wishes, desires and interests are, and listen to them. Please be mindful of safety warnings, physical and emotional well-being, and the ethics of consent: voluntary, informed consent of everyone involved. Other than that, what counts is your inner voice. To find out about your individual inner desires, listen inside yourself.
Best wishes!
Kink, BDSM and Fetish Information Siteshttp://www.sexuality.org/bdsm.html - Society for Human Sexuality BDSM Archive
http://www.leathernroses.com - Leather and Roses BDSM Resource Site
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm - Ambrosio’s BDSM Site
http://gloriabrame.com - Gloria Brame, Kinky Resources
http://loveandhealth.ifriends.net/full_ ... fm?topic=5 - Love and health, alternative sexuality articles
http://www.bcwsd.com/backroom/contents.shtml - BDSM Backroom
http://www.tngc.org/tngc/newbie.html - The Next Generation of Chicago Newbie Center
http://www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo.htm - Jack Rinella’s Leatherviews
http://www.bannon.com - Race Bannon, Intelligent information, ideas and insights about the adventurous side of sex and relationships
http://www.revisef65.org - Revise F65
http://ncsfreedom.org - National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
http://carasresearch.org - CARAS, Community-academic consortium for research on alternative sexualities
http://www.thebrc.net - The BDSM Resource Center
http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com - Soul’s Haven
http://sagacitygroup.net/main/knowledge - Sagacity Group, British Columbia
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html - Steel Door, an Archive of BDSM / DS Life Articles
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSM ... ticles.htm - Albany Power Exchange BDSM Info
http://www.nlacolumbus.com/education/edumenu.html - National Leather Association Columbus Articles
http://nelaonline.org - New England Leather Alliance
http://www.arizonapowerexchange.org - Arizona Power Exchange
http://www.cepemo.com - Columbia Erotic Power Exchange
http://www.saroftreve.com/workshop/projects.shtml - Sartan’s BDSM Workshop: DIY Projects
http://www.sadomechanix.dk - Sadomechanix
http://www.jaywiseman.com - Jay Wiseman
http://www.planetmidori.com - Midori
http://www.soj.org - The Society of Janus
http://www.bdsm-education.com - BDSM Education, Electric Switch
http://collarncuffs.com - CollarNCuffs, Femdom Resources
http://www.wizdomme.com - Wizdomme
http://www.frugaldomme.com/frugal.htm - The Frugal Domme
http://www.webmistress.org/crave - Crave
http://leatherdyke.com - Leatherdyke, women-only community space by leatherdykes, for leatherdykes
http://www.smgays.org - SM Gays, social and educational group for gay men interested in consensual, sexual sadomasochism. Information sheets
http://www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/fullin.htm - John Pendal’s Articles
http://www.hawkeegn.com/bdsm/kink.html - Lord Saber’s BDSM Page
http://public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/index.html - Deviant’s Dictionary
http://www.drkdesyre.com - Caryl’s BDSM Page
http://www.lantoniou.com - Laura Antoniou
http://masterslaveconference.org/MsC201 ... eches.html - Master Slave Conference Keynote Speeches
http://www.safersaner.org - Safer + Saner
http://www.lauragoodwin.org/essays.html - Laura Goodwin
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html - BDSM? What? Why? How? Franklin Veaux
http://www.symtoys.com - SymToys, Ideas and Scenarios
http://boybear.us - Slave David Stein
http://latches.webslaves.com - Latches, support for submissive women
http://www.seekers.org.uk - DS Seekers
http://www.vanilla-not.com - Vanilla-not, a DS Web Center
http://www.dsculture.com - DS Culture
http://www.domsub.info - Domsub Info
http://www.ecstagony.com - Agony and Ecstasy (archived)
http://www.leatherarchives.org - The Leather Archives and Museum Chicago
http://www.penitentialarts.com - Penitential Arts, history on the kinky side
Recommended Textshttp://sfsi.org/bdsm-fetishes-and-variations - What is BDSM? San Francisco Sex Information FAQ
http://web.gloriabrame.com/domidea/fallacy.htm - Five fallacies about SM by Gloria Brame
http://www.soj.org/miesen1.html - A view on sadomasochism by Don Miesen (archived)
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/terms.cfm#closing - When scene people meet someone by Ambrosio
http://loveandhealth.ifriends.net/Artic ... rticle=358 - Types of consensual submission by Gloria Brame
http://loveandhealth.ifriends.net/Artic ... rticle=199 - What is the nature of erotic dominance? By William A. Henkin
http://www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/S ... nghaus.htm - Switching: What’s a switch?
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdswitch.html - What’s with switching, anyway? By Franklin Veaux
http://web.gloriabrame.com/glory/glorbio2.htm - How a nice Jewish girl like me became an unrepentant pervert by Gloria Brame
http://www.sexuality.org/latrans.html - Laura Antoniou transcript
http://www.tngc.org/tngc/NC_safetyzone.html - Out of the safety zone: codes of conduct and identity in SM communities by Alison M. Moore
http://web.gloriabrame.com/domidea/abused.htm - Are you being abused? A notice about domestic violence in the SM/fetish scene
http://loveandhealth.worldgroups.com/Ar ... rticle=366 - Intimate Partner Violence in BDSM Relationships by Blaise Astra Parker
http://tnlr.org/about-partner-abuse/sm-v-abuse - The Network / La Red: SM vs. Abuse
http://www.hawkeegn.com/bdsm/oldgd.html - The old guard: the history of leather traditions by Guy Baldwin
http://loveandhealth.ifriends.net/Artic ... Article=57 - Fetishes: History and Practice by Gloria Brame
http://www.revisef65.org/supportWHO.html - Scientific and political support for the Revise F65 reform. Second report to the World Health Organization by Odd Reiersøl and Svein Skeid
Glossaries and Referencehttp://www.evilmonk.org/A/terms.cfm - A glossary of terms and some words of warning about BDSM jargon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM - Glossary of BDSM in wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_BDSM_topics - BDSM topics in wikipedia
http://wipipedia.org - Wipipedia, fetish and BDSM encyclopedia
http://kink-wiki.dreamwidth.org - Kink Wiki
http://www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/dict_us/index.htm - BDSM Backroom Dictionary
http://web.gloriabrame.com/domidea/chgloss.htm - A Glossary of Scene Slang
http://towerofbabel.com/sections/erotic ... index.html - Index of Terminology
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/encyclopervia - Informed Consent’s BDSM Dictionary
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdglossary.html - BDSM Glossary
http://www.datenschlag.org/english/bisam/index.html - BDSM and fetish books: searchable international bibliography BISAM
Starting out, Relationships, Dating, Personalshttp://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... psheet.htm - Tip sheet for beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
http://www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9906.htm - Overcoming fear by Jack Rinella
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/domadvic.html - Advice to a novice dominant
http://www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/D ... ongray.htm - How can I learn to be a good top?
http://www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/S ... bottom.htm - How can I learn to be a good bottom?
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination ... icedom.htm - Lord Saber’s views on being a novice dom
http://www.leathernroses.com/submission ... icesub.htm - Lord Saber’s views on being a novice sub
http://www.akashaweb.com/women/goodgirlpreview.html - The good girl’s guide to domination by Akasha
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html - Domination for nice guys by Franklin Veaux
http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_10Ti ... ubfem.html - Ten tips for the novice, single, heterosexual, submissive woman by Jay Wiseman. (Good advice and warnings to take to heart for any person starting out.)
http://www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/beef23.htm - Gaining SM confidence by John Pendal
http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_MunchGuide.html - A beginner’s guide to munches by Jay Wiseman
http://www.netdatingtips.com/adhints.html - How to write a good ad by Maureen. (General advice about writing personal ads which applies to kinky people as well.)
http://www.darksideofpassion.com/personal.htm - How to write an effective personal by Atheris. (Written for men who are looking for a dominant woman; useful for anyone looking for a relationship that includes BDSM.)
http://loveandhealth.worldgroups.com/Ar ... rticle=255 - Creating an Irresistible Online Profile by Yvonne K. Fulbright
http://www.lesbotronic.com/advice-for-l ... onals.html - Advice for using the personals. (Essay series on Lesbotronic about writing and interacting on personals sites; helpful for people regardless of gender and orientation.)
Safetyhttp://web.gloriabrame.com/domidea/playsafe.htm - Six thinking points before playing with someone new by Gloria Brame
http://www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/a ... afety.html - Safety first - fun second: safety when meeting for the first time
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... netorl.htm - Meeting people from online in real life
http://www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9918.htm - Rules for meeting strangers by Jack Rinella
http://www.recon.com/safety.aspx - Guidelines on safer dating, Recon
http://www.leathernroses.com/submission ... advice.htm - Slave safety: advice from one slave to his brothers by Coyote
http://www.bdsm-chicago.com/chism/NC_safety.html - Safety tips
http://absafecall.ca/ArticleMenu.html - Alberta Safecall articles
Techniques and Activitieshttp://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... niques.htm - Eight techniques for maintaining trust and communication during a scene
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm_scenarios.html - Toys, techniques, role-playing scenarios
http://nelaonline.org/cmsms/index.php?page=safesexbook - Basic guidelines for safer sex and SM interactions, New England Leather Alliance
http://actoronto.org/home.nsf/pages/bdsm - BDSM: Safer Kinky Sex
http://www.bdsmclasses.com/safetymanual.php - Safety manual by Catherine Gross
http://safersm.org/SaferSM/SaferSMPamphlet.html - Safer SM. Practical guidelines and advice on HIV & STD prevention within SM play
http://www.helseutvalget.no/tpl.html?catid=5&artid=424 - S&M and fetish sex between men. The brochure deals with how to go about this kind of sex safely without transmitting HIV and other kinds of sexually transmitted infections. Gay and Lesbian Health Norway
http://www.frugaldomme.com/esoteric/default.htm - Techniques and scene ideas
http://www.frugaldomme.com/dangers/default.htm - Techniques and safety
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... igging.htm - Figging, the art of ginger root play
http://www.bdsmwaxplay.com/erotic_waxing.htm - Wax play
http://www.officerwes.com/electrical/index.html - Electricity. Erotic uses by Officer Wes
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualrol ... yroles.htm - How to explore fantasy sexual role play by Cory Silverberg
http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_BreathPlayMain.html - Essays on breath control play by Jay Wiseman
http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_Fainting.html - Assessment and Treatment of “Fainting†During BDSM Play by Jay Wiseman
http://venusenvy.ca/sex_ed - Venus Envy Sex Ed Articles
http://www.medicaltoys.com/doc-lib.htm - Medical Fetish Library. How-to’s, safety precautions, resources
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... ercare.htm - Aftercare by Chris M.
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbds ... ercare.htm - Aftercare by Jersey Girl
Communication and Checklistshttp://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/negotiate.shtml - Negotiation questionnaire
http://www.cepemo.com/Negotiate.pdf - What Do You Want to Do? Basics of negotiating bdsm play (PDF)
http://www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/beef14.htm - Topics to cover with a new SM partner by John Pendal
http://www.cepemo.com/checklist.html - 200 Question BDSM Checklist, printable version
http://sagacitygroup.net/main/knowledge ... t.doc/view - BDSM Checklist. A list of BDSM activities and instructions for rating them. Useful when negotiating with a partner. MS Word file for download. To fill out on your computer, or print and fill out by hand.
http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/nchk_main.php3 - BDSM checklist to fill out online
http://www.vampirespet.com/ActivityChecklist.html - Submissive / dominant / switch activity checklist
http://mojoupgrade.com - Mojo Upgrade. Interactive sex questionnaire for couples to help them discover the fantasies that they might both enjoy together. Sex in general and kink
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic ... _stocklist - Yes, No, Maybe So. A sexual inventory stocklist. For sex in general. Scarleteen
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... _checklist - Ready or not? The Scarleteen sex readiness checklist. For figuring out if we’re ready for sex with a partner
Bondage Tutorialshttp://www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/a ... kurs01.htmhttp://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/steelbon.html - Steel bondage
http://www.grometsplaza.net/packaged/te ... hyxia.html - Positional asphyxia by Gromet
http://www.shibarilover.com/bondage101.htmhttp://meninrope.comhttp://www.houdini-connections.co.ukhttp://www.smgays.org/infosheets/classicbondage.asp- see under 'Information sheets'
http://park.kir.jp/gay/gana/common/shib ... ibari.html - Rope bondage, click on the yellow Japanese text in square brackets for step-by-step photos
http://www.ecstagony.com/eng/info/artbond.htm - Functional bondage (archived)
http://jackelfrink.com/tutorialshttp://japanrope.com/tutorial.htmlhttp://www.bedroombondage.com/bondageu/ ... index.htmlhttp://www.twistedmonk.com/video.htmhttp://www.knottyboys.comhttp://www.cepemo.com/instruction.htmlhttp://www.washi-nawashi.comhttp://monkeyfetish.comhttp://www.officerwes.com/ropeman/harness.htmhttp://touwtjes.tkhttp://tgv9.free.fr/bondage/savane1.htmhttp://www.bdsm-chicago.com/cram/CRAM_tuts.htmlhttp://www.symtoys.com/ideas_bondage.htmlhttp://ds-arts.comhttp://www.bondageproject.com/public/info-tipps_e.htmhttp://www.bindme.nl/eframes.htmhttp://www.ropefashions.comhttp://www.ropemarks.comhttp://www.mummified.net/mum_techniques.html - Mummification
Groups and Gatheringshttp://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgs.html - BDSM groups in various countries
http://fetlife.com/events/all - Upcoming events, Fetlife
http://fetlife.com/places - Places and regional groups, Fetlife
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/uk/ - Groups, munches and events in the UK
http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html - USA sorted by states
http://www.fetishscene.com/fetishscene/cgi/main.cgi - USA and various other countries
http://www.theleatherjournal.com/?q=clubdirectory2 - Leather clubs, various countries
http://sm-finder.bvsm.de - BDSM groups in Germany
http://www.schlagzeilen.com/de/smgruppe ... ammtische/ - Germany, Denmark, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/xx/ - Various countries
http://kinkforall.org and
http://kinkforall.pbworks.com/OrganizeALocalKinkForAll - Kink For All, ad-hoc informational unconferences on sexuality
http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com - BDSM events
https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-a ... onals.html - Kink aware professionals, psychotherapeutic, medical, legal
http://www.bdsmrights.com - Human rights and activism groups
Discussion Forums and Online Social Networkshttp://www.boundforum.com - The Bound Forum, bondage, BDSM, selfbondage, mummification, chastity, latex, rubber, packaging
http://www.fetlife.com/login - Fetlife, a social network for kinksters and people curious about kink
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/boards - Informed Consent, UK BDSM discussion boards
http://askthekinksters.livejournal.com - Ask the kinksters livejournal community
http://collarncuffs.com/phpBB/index.php - Collar n Cuffs, a femdom community
http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com - She Makes The Rules, discussions for women and men about daily living in the reality of a female led relationship
http://www.recon.com - Recon, fetish profiles, personals and chat site for gay men
http://www.lesbotronic.com - Lesbotronic, general lesbian personals site for lesbian/bisexual/trans/genderqueer women. Romance and dating, friends, hook ups, lesbian community. BDSM welcomed. Worldwide
http://www.collarchat.com - Collarchat, general BDSM forum part of the dating site Collar Me
http://www.collarme.comhttp://bondage.com/forums/default.html - Fetish, Bondage and BDSM message boards
http://okcupid.com - OK Cupid. General dating site. Heterosexual, bisexual, gay. Kink friendly
General Sexuality Informationhttp://www.sexuality.org - Society for Human Sexuality
http://sexuality.about.com - About sexual pleasure and sexual health
http://www.scarleteen.com - Scarleteen, sex education for the real world
http://www.thesite.org - The Site, your guide to the real world
http://www.sfsi.org - San Francisco Sex Information
http://loveandhealth.worldgroups.com/home_article.cfm - Love and Health
http://www.sexualhealth.com - Sexual Health Network
http://www.brook.org.uk - Brook, free, confidential advice on sex and contraception
http://www.clitical.com - Clitical, female masturbation and sexuality
http://www.the-clitoris.com - The Clitoris, dedicated to female sexual pleasure and health
http://www.gmfa.org.uk/sex/bettersex/index.html - Better sex for gay men
http://www.superdrewby.com/sex - Gay sex guide
http://www.tht.org.uk/informationresour ... ubid=31348 - Below the belt. The penis and testicles and how to stay healthy
http://www.tht.org.uk/informationresour ... ubid=31354 - The bottom line. Guide to anal health
http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com - Sexual positions, hetero
http://www.puckerup.com - Tristan Taormino, pucker up
http://www.tinynibbles.com - Violet Blue, open source sex
http://www.susiebright.com - Susie Bright
http://sexualintelligence.org - Sexual intelligence newsletter, Marty Klein
http://www.duckydoolittle.com - Ducky Doolittle
http://www.charlieglickman.com - Charlie Glickman
http://www.positive.org - Coalition for positive sexuality
International Kink Resources DirectoryKink, BDSM, fetishes, sexuality and relationships.
All genders and orientations.
An international directory of resources in many languages.
http://ranai.wordpress.com/kink-resourcesMore Places to LookBook recommendations in English.
Kink resources in print, Andrea Zanin.
http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/kink-resourcesIntroductory texts about BDSM for educational settings
http://ranai.wordpress.com/2011/12/02/i ... l-settingsIf I were writing the 101 course, Ranat, Beyond the hills.
This is a collection of posts, articles, and what-not that I would have liked to have come across when I first dared enter “dominance and submission†and “sadomasochism†into search boxes.’
http://beyondthehills.wordpress.com/if- ... 101-courseKink and sexuality related blog posts and fiction. Tagged by themes and authors.
Ranai Pahav on Delicious.
http://delicious.com/ranaipahavI edit and update the lists occasionally. If you should find a broken link, or a website that has moved, or would like to recommend further resources, I’d appreciate a note. Thanks!
Ranai
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