BDSM Information Links

[bizarrehobbies]

Thanks Ranai, for all your hard work and effort.

[Ranai Pahav]

You are very welcome.

For people on the forum asking: 'How do I find gatherings of other kinky people in my area?'

That’s what the Groups and Gatherings section in this list is for. It provides direct links to listings of groups, munches and events. The lists get regularly updated and are sorted by region. So, to find a group in your area, you don’t need to use a search engine and then trawl through all the junk links to commercial sites.

If your country or area is not listed anywhere on these sites, try the International Kink Resources Directory.

If your country doesn’t appear anywhere on those pages either, your best bet at present is probably to join Fetlife – it’s a free site – and search for a Fetlife discussion group of people in your country: Click on ‘Groups’ and enter your country’s name in ‘Search for a group’. Try a search with your country’s name in your mother tongue, and one with your country’s name in English. Sometimes these groups only have a small outpost on Fetlife, and link to their regular discussion list on another, public site. If such a group should not exist yet, create one. Find other compatriots under ‘Places’ and ask them to join.

Hardly anybody (exept commercial folks) is keen on contact with someone who presents themselves as a blank sheet, or merely a list of kinks. Blank profiles or profiles listing nothing but kinks are likely to awaken only commercial interest. So if you want people to get to know you and make friends, fill in your profile with meaningful information about yourself as a human being first.

The same goes for the 'Find a Friend' section on this forum, of course. If you are placing a personal ad anywhere at all, to awaken anybody's interest in you as a person, you need to make your advertisement personal, not impersonal, and write about yourself as a person.

[Ranai Pahav]

Here are three more places to look:

Books

How about book recommendations? As it’s merely a collection of websites, there are no book recommendations in the list above.
Andrea Zanin (Sex Geek) has taken the time to compose three annotated lists of book recommendations in English language.
Kink resources in print, Sex Geek, Andrea Zanin

Essays

If you’d like some reading recommendations sorted by theme, such as excellent essays, but prefer not to spend huge amounts of time searching through blogs, you can benefit from the work Ranat has done. Her premise: 'This is a collection of posts, articles, and what-not that I would have liked to have come across when I first dared enter "dominance and submission" and "sadomasochism" into search boxes.'
If I Were Writing the 101 Course, Ranat, Beyond the hills

Blog posts

If you should be interested in an eclectic mix of latest kink and sexuality related blog posts and fiction I have been enjoying, check out my delicious bookmarks. I have tagged every entry with names 'Who?' and subject matter 'What?', to enable searching for related texts.
Ranai Pahav on Delicious

[bizarrehobbies]

Thanks Ranai, you are a goddess of kink.

[tbirdgal]

Gosh, I no idea there was so much out there concerning the  "Non Main stream sex side " Wow, it's ging to take a week to see about which links might actually fit me the best , uh no pun intended either . Thank you

[zoro_1969]

great list of links.. greets from Germany to Germany..

[tbirdgal]

If it's ok with ya'all I own a primarily transgendered forum EVERYONE can join . The rules are usual, no dating ,porno, flaming threats , you know the usual stuff....... It's called Transfolk

 

 

http://missellen.proboards.com/index.cgi?

[Ranai Pahav]

Tbirdgal, thank you for posting the link! I’m happy to find out about new resources. Sorry your discussion forum crashed and its content was lost. I’ve added the link to the new one you created, Transworl, to the various transgender related resources listed under Sexuality and Gender.

Zoro_1969, hello to you too! I’m in the process of going through and expanding the international directory of kink resources. With some languages I have various listed, with some others, it takes time to find sites and hopefully post a short text about them.

Sometimes I get pleasantly surprised about the resources to be found in so many languages. Often though it is very discouraging when 'Bondage' or 'BDSM', on sites claiming to be meant for supposedly any kinky person, are again and again represented in very narrow, actively exclusionary confines. So when I have spent some time going through yet another bunch of links with pictures and text telling me all over: 'Although this is nominally a general BDSM site, we really want to show just one narrow specific orientation. You happen to be a dominant woman who is into seeing men? Nothing here to attract the likes of you, just go away! As for LGBTQ people, our images and texts clearly show we don't want them here either!', I have to stop doing this for a while and seek out text and eye candy that corresponds to my orientation, and read texts written by people who acknowledge and value human diversity. I hope to continue this work in progress with the multi language links after the summer.

Bizarrehobbies, aw thanks. It’s not such a difficult thing to do for a mere human like myself.

The bulk are sites I’ve found worth reading in one way or another and learned some stuff from. Then I’ve added links which don’t speak to my personal interests but might come in useful to others. I always try to encourage people to be true to themselves, and be aware that one’s own kinky interests are just one selection of preferences in a very wide field of human possibilities.

Giving feedback to authors

People who write texts about kink are often happy to hear from readers. Some of the websites that have been around for a while have an email contact listed. Authors of printed books can be reached via their publishers or their personal sites. Nowadays, as much content on the net is posted in blog or podcast format, readers have an even faster and more immediate means of saying thanks, giving feedback and constructive criticism: the blog comment form!
Like anyone reading, I don’t get around to writing even a ‘Thank you, that was interesting’ or similar short note to even a fraction of the content that makes me think. But I try to post comments once in a while – see my delicious link. You (general you reading this text) can too! If you read useful stuff, online or in print, consider letting the authors know what you appreciate.

[stephanie1963]

Any thing for us crossdressers or did i miss it?
Great work by the way must have put a few hours into assembling that list

[Ranai Pahav]

Stephanie: Thank you. Yes! This one is just a short list.

I've compiled many more informative links, including for example some sites dedicated to specific activities and fetishes (such as clothing fetishes), but I only post the entire collection in one place, so I don't have to do multiple edits in different places when something changes.

Take a look under the heading Gender Bending, Crossdressing, Androgyny on the Kink Resources: Topics page. Enjoy.


Edited to update link.
Ranai Pahav2011-06-24 06:45:57

[bnsfilms]

There is also for Gallery lovers Bondage Fix, I fin they are linked to many quality sites, also Bondage Paper, Gagged Women list is great as well.

Nick
Boundnsexy

[Ranai Pahav]

Hello Nick,When you read this thread, you'll notice the post on the first page where I explain why in this list of informational links, I don't include links to media made for entertainment, such as galleries or fictional porn stories and films. However, you can always post gallery recommendations in Links & Site Reviews. I've done the same, and posted recommendations of sites with bondage and other porn pics that turn me on in their own threads.

[tbirdgal]

Just to give everyone an update , the older Miss ellens or transfolk site crashed . Its been done as folows :

 

http://transworl.proboards.com/index.cgi?action=login

 

The usual rules apply, no porn , threats , flaming , yada yadda yadda ..............

[Ranai Pahav]

I've edited and updated this BDSM information links list today.

As usual, let me know of resources you'd suggest for addition any time.

Cheers,
Ranai

[Ranai Pahav]

I've just posted my new kink resources directory. If you are looking for international links in more languages than English, or are just curious and like a wide plurality of information sources, you'll probably find interesting stuff. Here it is

Kink resources directory

[evie]

Superb list, I'll have to check some of those out :D x

[stephanie_cd]

Ranai has updated her kink resources directory again! 

Kink resources directory

Many thanks for a wonderful source of information, Ranai!

[Ranai Pahav]

If you're interested in a selection of texts about BDSM written for a general readership (not just specifically for readers who have BDSM interests themselves), and interested in academic research of the non-prejudiced kind, you may want to check out

Introductory Texts About BDSM for Educational Settings

[Ranai Pahav]

I have edited the list to restore the formatting after the move to the new forum. Cheers!

[DarkLizerd]

I just disovered this list, or re-discovered, not sure, but you do have lots of good links to kinks...
But with a quick look at all you have there, I think you missed:
http://forum.boundanna.net/ forum site, like The Bound Forum
and
http://boundanna.com/ The main site with links, scenarios, and some stoies

Also, one sugustion... keep all updated links on your first page, that way, if someone pops in here, they can see everything in one place, and not need to read the rest of the postings to see if anything catches their eye...
Also... like others have commented... "Data overload" or in the words of Johny Five... "INPUT!!!!!!!"
So, thanks for the hard work... I just hope all the links are still good....