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tiemeupalso wrote:dump him.it sounds more and more all he wants is sex.there is a whole world out there that has nothing to do with sex.you deserve to enjoy it.
Franzia wrote:Wish I could be more optimistic but will have have to agree with Petra and tiemeup. This has been an ongoing problem for you and nothing has changed. And it's likely nothing will improve until or unless your boyfriend realizes that while there can be a relation between sex and bondage, they are not always the same thing.
You've elsewhere said he doesn't want you to roleplay either so I assume he doesn't know you're here, or even knows of the site, which could be unfortunate because he might learn something here.
MsBehavin wrote:My opinion...
Dump him.
He's just not into bondage enough to enjoy it for its own sake and he never will be.
To be blunt... you're playing with fire. He hasn't broken your trust (yet) but is constantly pushing you for sex and by being bound you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation and one which could lead to rape.
napy666 wrote:tiemeupalso wrote:dump him.it sounds more and more all he wants is sex.there is a whole world out there that has nothing to do with sex.you deserve to enjoy it.
To him, he see's bondage as a type of sex, its like why do you get to be tied up and gagged and then I can't have sex with you on top of it? That isn't fair, type of thing he is seeing and he doesn't like it. On top of, him wanting to be closer to me, by us having sex. But I stand my ground and I am NOT going to have sex until I am married, thats been my choice for many, many, years.
Franzia wrote:Wish I could be more optimistic but will have have to agree with Petra and tiemeup. This has been an ongoing problem for you and nothing has changed. And it's likely nothing will improve until or unless your boyfriend realizes that while there can be a relation between sex and bondage, they are not always the same thing.
You've elsewhere said he doesn't want you to roleplay either so I assume he doesn't know you're here, or even knows of the site, which could be unfortunate because he might learn something here.
Franzia wrote:Fair enough- never having been in that exact situation, I'll try putting myself in his place. While I wouldn't feel quite right about it, I doubt I would flat out forbid it. I suppose that if the role play (or RP) didn't get intimate by involving sex I would be cautiously ok with it, with the condition I can monitor some of it. It would also help if I knew who she was playing with. For example, if it was one of the guys on this forum I might say, "Ooh, Whats-his-name? Been reading his stuff for years- so yea, go ahead!"
Let's try reversing the situation here: how would you feel if your boyfriend was a submissive who loves to be tied up, and yet also wants to hold off on sex until after marriage, while you desperately want sex now? And he role plays with other women? What is the best way you can think of to handle that?
Handcuffer79 wrote:How long have you been together? I'm asking so because if you have been dating for some time maybe you could considera talking about the possibility of marriage.
Living without sex is posible when there is a major cause for it. If that's not the case (and it doesn't seem), maybe talking about deadlines could help ease the situation. Thing that otherwise it may sound to him as "chastity ofrecer", and you seem to genuinely love him, so why not think about it?
napy666 wrote:Him and I have been together for a little over 1 year. We could get married, but we don't have the money to do a wedding, or buy any of the wedding items. and neither of us has a job, so no money to even buy ANYTHING. So.....
napy666 wrote:Huh? I don't get it.
napy666 wrote:Well I know what I want with a wedding and all that.
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