Soft or hard?

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Soft or hard?

Unread postby Carto78 » Sun Aug 05, 2018 11:00 am

Hey guys,

usually you prefer a "hard" bondage or a "soft" one? I mean by this if you are more into a sort of make believe, so all kind of action that don't cause real pain (or at least not so strong) or if you need to feel a pain and that a mark of it be left on your body? moreover, I like just the soft one, so do you think that I might be considered a slave nevertheless?
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Re: Soft or hard?

Unread postby One Pivot » Mon Sep 17, 2018 6:09 pm

There's no qualifier for being a slave. If that's what you like, you're set!

I'm a Dom and I'm not really into playing softly, but that's between me and mine.
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Re: Soft or hard?

Unread postby Ass_Whiplash » Mon Sep 17, 2018 6:16 pm

I like things real.

I am not a masochist (most of the time) - I don't particularly enjoy pain for pain's sake.

What I do like is what pain does to me. I like certain kinds and levels of sensation, some of which could be described as pain. I like having pain used as a tool, to discipline me when I've done wrong. I like the endorphins that come with heavy painful play and the space I'm in during and after. I like being forced to give into pain, to submit to it, to cry from it, to beg for more of it.

I can't do any of that with "soft" play or by roleplaying and doing the motions of painful play without actual pain.
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Re: Soft or hard?

Unread postby Ass_Whiplash » Mon Sep 17, 2018 6:33 pm

It suddenly won't let me edit that post but I realized I didn't actually answer your question - can you be a slave even though you only like it softer?

I think the answer is yes. Just like every other Master/Mistress-slave dynamic, you need your likes, dislikes, kinks, and limits to match up fairly well, but being a slave is about submitting to your Master/Mistress's will, not about how much pain you can take.

I would say you wouldn't have a good time if you tried to be slave to a Master/Mistress who wanted to play very hard because then they'd want to do more than you could handle, so you just need to find the right match.
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Re: Soft or hard?

Unread postby Cd Tammy » Mon Oct 01, 2018 8:47 pm

I want to truly be helpless when in bondage. Often a position that starts out comfortable gets painful over time. That’s part of being helpless. If I scripted everything, that would be topping from the bottom.
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Re: Soft or hard?

Unread postby Stahlketten » Tue Oct 02, 2018 1:17 am

There is obviously more than one interpretation to "Soft or hard?"
When I first saw this thread, I was thinking that it was discussion of preference for strict or loose bondage.
Some people like nothing more serious than buckled leather cuffs while others like the feeling of being locked in metal restraints with no hope of getting free.
The discussion seems to be more about Pain or No Pain inflicted during a play session. My own preference is for no pain for its own sake though it may be a part of the scenario or an unavoidable effect of being strictly restrained or a means of coercing the prisoner to follow the Jailer's orders.
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