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by ruru67
25 Mar 2024, 00:45
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: The Psychology of Kink: Does relational trauma impact interest in BDSM? (academic research)
Replies: 3
Views: 613

Re: The Psychology of Kink: Does relational trauma impact interest in BDSM? (academic research)

Lisa9019 wrote: 24 Mar 2024, 11:06Link doesn't work
ducttapelover wrote: 24 Mar 2024, 23:20Didn’t work for me either
I get an error saying, "the experiment is inactive", which given that this was posted back at the start of February, isn't really a surprise.
by ruru67
19 Mar 2024, 08:24
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Gag strap problem
Replies: 11
Views: 6952

Re: Gag strap problem

The best gag I've ever found is called "The Big One", sold by Silencilicone. But stupidly expensive! No matter, there is the cheap Chinese knock-off (although I have reason to suspect that it's not so much a "knock-off" as a "product re-positioning"): https://www.aliex...
by ruru67
28 Nov 2023, 21:34
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Should handcuffs be worn in front or in the back?
Replies: 34
Views: 115268

Re: Should handcuffs be worn in front or in the back?

Aliexpress is good but I had bad experiences with shipping, long waiting times and in the end I received a refund because I didn't receive anything. I use AliExpress a lot - literally hundreds of orders. To be honest, I've found it more reliable than eBay - if something doesn't turn up you do get t...
by ruru67
27 Nov 2023, 23:56
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Should handcuffs be worn in front or in the back?
Replies: 34
Views: 115268

Re: Should handcuffs be worn in front or in the back?

Those don't look very "home made" ... more like these: https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005002611272355.html ... but twice the price plus shipping ... That's one of my pet hates about Etsy. it's flooded with people reselling stuff you can get on AliExpress. It makes finding unique and diff...
by ruru67
27 Oct 2023, 03:47
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: A new metal bondage lover
Replies: 5
Views: 4442

Re: A new metal bondage lover

And a very nice leg shackle it is. Chinese? Where did you get it?
by ruru67
27 Jun 2023, 06:28
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: blindfold in sb
Replies: 11
Views: 14515

Re: blindfold in sb

Question is: Do you enjoy, at least a bit, those "panicky moments"? I should note that usually these panicky moments are despite having double or triple checked everything, and put backups in place. Two timers - but I can't see either of them so ... are they both set? (Of course they are....
by ruru67
26 Jun 2023, 10:16
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: blindfold in sb
Replies: 11
Views: 14515

Re: blindfold in sb

I do like blindfolds or hoods for SB. They do complicate getting in and out though, especially if other sensory deprivation factors are involved (e.g gloves / mitts). I've had some panicky moments when I haven't been 100% sure they keys were where I put them ... or that I've set a timer correctly, o...
by ruru67
09 Apr 2023, 05:41
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: utopiastories.com offline
Replies: 18
Views: 24628

Re: utopiastories.com offline

It is working for me ... The site works, for small values of "works". Static content, including the stories and links, but excluding the image galleries, is present, but no updates are being done, no new stories are being added, and the active components such as keyword search are no long...
by ruru67
07 Apr 2023, 12:09
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: What would you do if you saw me in this situation?
Replies: 7
Views: 8583

Re: What would you do if you saw me in this situation?

I'd get you down and safe. Then, ask how you got there, and whether you need anything and whether I should call police, get medical assistance, et c.
SBadiction wrote: 07 Apr 2023, 07:47... and start edging you towards a climax ...
So you'd sexually assault a helpless stranger without asking if they consented?
by ruru67
26 Feb 2023, 22:00
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Chained in Leg Irons
Replies: 53
Views: 54450

Re: Chained in Leg Irons

fancybondage.com is selling a leather armbinder for $19.00. I am wondering how good that can be at that price. I didn't even need* to see the item to tell you it will be made from crappy PU, including the straps which won't take much abuse, and it'll be on the small side. The PU won't hold the eyel...
by ruru67
08 Jan 2023, 05:24
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: permanent cuffs
Replies: 28
Views: 51019

Re: permanent cuffs

It was a 10mm thick neck ring type collar. Here's the actual product: https://www.aliexpress.com/item/32955245494.html . It's passable enough to wear to work; my current partner also wore an identical collar 24/7 (but not "permanently" attached) for an extended period to her public service...
by ruru67
07 Jan 2023, 00:27
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: permanent cuffs
Replies: 28
Views: 51019

Re: permanent cuffs

for the hex bolt type closures I think a tiny drop of epoxy on the threads prior to screwing it in would do the job. Epoxy or a threadlocker like Loctite Red will do it. The latter is really the "right" tool for the job. I had a "permanent" collar on a former partner locked with...
by ruru67
02 Aug 2022, 02:38
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: hood vs. blindfold/gag
Replies: 3
Views: 5613

Re: hood vs. blindfold/gag

I prefer hoods for their coverage and non-removability - single strap blindfolds always seem to slip with only a little eyebrow waggling. They also inevitably let in light around my (largish) nose.

A set of headband style headphones inside with a noise source makes that even more isolating.
by ruru67
13 Jun 2022, 23:58
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Headbox
Replies: 3
Views: 2624

Re: Headbox

I'd note that a rigid head box actually causes very little trouble with breathing as long as it's not actually sealed to the body - when you breath out it pressurises the box and the air escapes; breathing in does the opposite, so while it can be a bit stuffy, if you breathe normally there is regula...
by ruru67
27 Feb 2022, 23:11
Forum: Chastity
Topic: Does Anyone Else know?
Replies: 40
Views: 131543

Re: Does Anyone Else know?

I think your friend is less "vanilla" than you or she have been making out ... and also a bit of a flirt.
by ruru67
18 Feb 2022, 03:33
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: utopiastories.com offline
Replies: 18
Views: 24628

Re: utopiastories.com offline

Totally get not wanting to push to some random in the Internet. I wonder if it's worth passing the stories to an existing site like Gromet's Plaza . I'm not sure if Teann ( teanndaorsa ) is up for curating a bunch of stories, not all of which will be appropriate for that site or its sub-sites, but i...
by ruru67
17 Feb 2022, 04:19
Forum: Author's Corner
Topic: Angel's Chastity Belt Part 2
Replies: 14
Views: 29061

Re: Angel's Chastity Belt Part 2

The full story is here: https://web.archive.org/web/20201112022 ... ecid/63298

It's an archive link since UtopiaStories is not in a good way.
by ruru67
15 Jan 2022, 10:57
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs
Replies: 11
Views: 6835

Re: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs

Why don't they make them oval instead of round? :/ There are plenty of oval cuffs out there. I'd note that oval cuffs don't easily rotate around your wrist like round ones do, so you often find the chain pulling at a funny angle, trying to rotate your wrist for you. But, yes, oval cuffs are a lot s...
by ruru67
18 Dec 2021, 03:35
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs
Replies: 11
Views: 6835

Re: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs

I have a theory that maybe the fact that im bathing with it, and my conditioner/soaps are getting between my cuffs and skin and since I cant really get under the cuffs to dry it, maybe the residue of the conditioner/soaps or maybe even just the water not being able to dry and the skin being constan...
by ruru67
15 Dec 2021, 23:26
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs
Replies: 11
Views: 6835

Re: Q Re: Skin Irritation for Permanent/Long Term Cuffs

Could it be a nickel allergy from rivets or any other hardware in contact with the skin? Most "silvery" types of leatherworking hardware is, sadly, nickel plated. I'd note that rashes from nickel allergies usually show up within hours rather than days, and they're usually highly localised ...