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by fetishdj
18 Mar 2024, 00:51
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: I feel like selfbondage is a waste
Replies: 11
Views: 17167

Re: I feel like selfbondage is a waste

What do you feel is the purpose of self bondage here? It feels to me like the purpose for you is to cum. Once you have done it, you are done and want to be freed. Not everyone has that dynamic, some like the humiliation, the feeling of helplessness, the denial of orgasm. I usually end the session of...
by fetishdj
18 Mar 2024, 00:41
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Autism
Replies: 3
Views: 1004

Re: Autism

I'm not formally diagnosed but I hit a lot of ADHD traits and there may be a touch of autism in there too...
But I am fairly sure that many in the lifestyle are ND...
by fetishdj
26 Aug 2023, 13:56
Forum: Find a Friend
Topic: gagged guys to chat with
Replies: 7
Views: 9257

Re: gagged guys to chat with

Very much in to gags and have a bit of a collection. Always open to DMs and random chats about them.
by fetishdj
22 Aug 2023, 23:44
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: T shaped Pantyhose
Replies: 0
Views: 23157

T shaped Pantyhose

Not sure this is quite the right board for this question as it is mainly about nylon fetish rather than crossdressing, but I suppose you may know the answer... I've recently heard about T shaped crotch pantyhose in a context that suggests it is somehow better than non T shaped from a fetish point of...
by fetishdj
13 Apr 2023, 09:04
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: First step into the bondage world, where to begin?
Replies: 1
Views: 1974

Re: First step into the bondage world, where to begin?

I don't think I have ever heard of a company that offers such a service before so this is completely new to me. The most likely source of this sort of service would be a professional dominant (mostly female, though I believe some males ones do exist) and they would usually offer whatever services yo...
by fetishdj
12 Apr 2023, 11:14
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: Buying Heels
Replies: 18
Views: 42741

Re: Buying Heels

Five inch heels take a LOT of practice! You might try something lower for cooking and other housework. I have a nice pair of wing-tip oxfords with a 3" block heel that are quite comfortable for all day wear. They aren't as sexy looking as stilettoes with 4" or 5" spikes, but they loo...
by fetishdj
12 Apr 2023, 00:01
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Cage experience
Replies: 19
Views: 12147

Re: Cage experience

I did a pro session at a location (actually a night club used for fetish and kink nights) which had a basement with cells in it. I was in a small (size of a toilet cubicle) room with iron bars for a door, sat on a bench with my arms chained above me at the start of the session. Later in the session ...
by fetishdj
11 Apr 2023, 19:33
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Gag strap problem
Replies: 11
Views: 6959

Re: Gag strap problem

I own something called a 'stuffer mouth gag' which is basically a ball of soft leather that is stuffed into the mouth and completely fills it. It has a face plate and a strap attached to that. You cannot push it with the tongue at all because it immobilises the tongue completely. Another option migh...
by fetishdj
20 Jan 2023, 20:32
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Nipple Clamps
Replies: 7
Views: 6665

Re: Nipple Clamps

The sudden rush of blood to the area that has been deprived? Possibly. There may be other causes too.
by fetishdj
20 Jan 2023, 01:28
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Nipple Clamps
Replies: 7
Views: 6665

Re: Nipple Clamps

The medical issue is that you risk ischaemic reperfusion injury if you cut off the supply of blood to an area completely for more than 15 minutes and then reintroduce the supply suddenly. First aiders get the same advice for people trapped - if they have been trapped for longer than 15 minutes you d...
by fetishdj
10 Jan 2023, 00:05
Forum: Chastity
Topic: Sleeping in cage 24/7 and risks
Replies: 3
Views: 6222

Re: Sleeping in cage 24/7 and risks

I've had a chastity device on overnight before. First thing I will say is that there is a lot to be said for finding the right device to fit you. Not every device fits every person perfectly so you have to play around with different styles and types of device to see what works for you. Biologically ...
by fetishdj
05 Jan 2023, 00:47
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: not sure
Replies: 12
Views: 9753

Re: not sure

I think there are as many definitions of 'crossdressing' as there are kinky people to be honest. It's therefore difficult to pin down. In most cases, it comes down to whether YOU feel like a crossdresser or not. There is also a variance in the reasons for crossdressing. As in, there are different 'k...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 20:03
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Solo Newbie
Replies: 7
Views: 6712

Re: Solo Newbie

What experience do you already have? Always happy to provide ideas.
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 16:09
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Drinking while gagged
Replies: 3
Views: 2477

Re: Drinking while gagged

In situations where I have been in the position of being gagged for extended periods, there were multiple occasions where the dominant would remove the gag to allow me to drink. It only takes a short while to remove it, allow a sub to drink, then replace the gag. And a good dominant should be making...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 15:36
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How would an online forced orgasm work
Replies: 1
Views: 6615

Re: How would an online forced orgasm work

Without toys? What you are talking about here is basically a form of JOI (jerk off instructions). You don't specify male or female for the sub but I guess it works as well for both (though generally JOI is the male masturbating). The idea is that the dominant and submissive are both online, using vi...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 15:27
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Official Dares and Ideas Thread
Replies: 831
Views: 1076678

Re: Official Dares and Ideas Thread

This weekend I (potentially) have the weekend in the house all to myself. I say potentially because plans are still nebulous and may be cancelled but I should know for certain by Wednesday... So, that means time from Friday evening until Sunday morning for play... In this time I will have to make s...
by fetishdj
04 Sep 2022, 17:54
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: New Self Bondage Setup
Replies: 5
Views: 7943

Re: New Self Bondage Setup

Good luck! Hope it all works well!
by fetishdj
29 Aug 2022, 23:06
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Hi from Italy
Replies: 2
Views: 1195

Re: Hi from Italy

Hi and welcome!
by fetishdj
17 Aug 2022, 09:28
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: Hot weather
Replies: 5
Views: 2913

Re: Hot weather

I blame Beau Brummel... he was the one who set in place the events that led to the fashion for men to be plain colours. I want fabulous coloured frock coats back! But yes, in terms of hot weather, I agree. On a non kinky note male business dress needs to change as there are still too many places tha...
by fetishdj
16 Aug 2022, 23:07
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Sub drop
Replies: 4
Views: 2904

Re: Sub drop

No problem. To be honest I should have figured there would be some who needed more of a definition.