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by fetishdj
20 Jan 2023, 20:32
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Nipple Clamps
Replies: 7
Views: 842

Re: Nipple Clamps

The sudden rush of blood to the area that has been deprived? Possibly. There may be other causes too.
by fetishdj
20 Jan 2023, 01:28
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Nipple Clamps
Replies: 7
Views: 842

Re: Nipple Clamps

The medical issue is that you risk ischaemic reperfusion injury if you cut off the supply of blood to an area completely for more than 15 minutes and then reintroduce the supply suddenly. First aiders get the same advice for people trapped - if they have been trapped for longer than 15 minutes you d...
by fetishdj
10 Jan 2023, 00:05
Forum: Chastity
Topic: Sleeping in cage 24/7 and risks
Replies: 2
Views: 519

Re: Sleeping in cage 24/7 and risks

I've had a chastity device on overnight before. First thing I will say is that there is a lot to be said for finding the right device to fit you. Not every device fits every person perfectly so you have to play around with different styles and types of device to see what works for you. Biologically ...
by fetishdj
05 Jan 2023, 00:47
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: not sure
Replies: 11
Views: 1003

Re: not sure

I think there are as many definitions of 'crossdressing' as there are kinky people to be honest. It's therefore difficult to pin down. In most cases, it comes down to whether YOU feel like a crossdresser or not. There is also a variance in the reasons for crossdressing. As in, there are different 'k...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 20:03
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Solo Newbie
Replies: 6
Views: 623

Re: Solo Newbie

What experience do you already have? Always happy to provide ideas.
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 16:09
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Drinking while gagged
Replies: 3
Views: 1231

Re: Drinking while gagged

In situations where I have been in the position of being gagged for extended periods, there were multiple occasions where the dominant would remove the gag to allow me to drink. It only takes a short while to remove it, allow a sub to drink, then replace the gag. And a good dominant should be making...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 15:36
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How would an online forced orgasm work
Replies: 1
Views: 1281

Re: How would an online forced orgasm work

Without toys? What you are talking about here is basically a form of JOI (jerk off instructions). You don't specify male or female for the sub but I guess it works as well for both (though generally JOI is the male masturbating). The idea is that the dominant and submissive are both online, using vi...
by fetishdj
02 Jan 2023, 15:27
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Official Dares and Ideas Thread
Replies: 831
Views: 973373

Re: Official Dares and Ideas Thread

This weekend I (potentially) have the weekend in the house all to myself. I say potentially because plans are still nebulous and may be cancelled but I should know for certain by Wednesday... So, that means time from Friday evening until Sunday morning for play... In this time I will have to make s...
by fetishdj
04 Sep 2022, 17:54
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: New Self Bondage Setup
Replies: 5
Views: 2303

Re: New Self Bondage Setup

Good luck! Hope it all works well!
by fetishdj
29 Aug 2022, 23:06
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Hi from Italy
Replies: 2
Views: 531

Re: Hi from Italy

Hi and welcome!
by fetishdj
17 Aug 2022, 09:28
Forum: Crossdressing
Topic: Hot weather
Replies: 5
Views: 1453

Re: Hot weather

I blame Beau Brummel... he was the one who set in place the events that led to the fashion for men to be plain colours. I want fabulous coloured frock coats back! But yes, in terms of hot weather, I agree. On a non kinky note male business dress needs to change as there are still too many places tha...
by fetishdj
16 Aug 2022, 23:07
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Sub drop
Replies: 4
Views: 1394

Re: Sub drop

No problem. To be honest I should have figured there would be some who needed more of a definition.
by fetishdj
08 Aug 2022, 14:04
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Sub drop
Replies: 4
Views: 1394

Re: Sub drop

It's a phenomenon where a submissive gets low after a session. Basically linked to the high you get from being in the session compared with the feeling afterwards.

It can happen after any form of activity which gives you a rush (LRP community often call it 'event drop')
by fetishdj
07 Aug 2022, 13:17
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Hi
Replies: 4
Views: 819

Re: Hi

Hi Gemma! Another UK person here!
by fetishdj
07 Aug 2022, 12:14
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Presentation
Replies: 4
Views: 1267

Re: Presentation

Hi and welcome! Yes, it is difficult initially to find people who are into the same things. Not sure what it is like in France but in the UK there are ways to find like. Forums like this are a good start but also places like Fetlife, which has an events section that can be geared to your local area....
by fetishdj
05 Aug 2022, 16:45
Forum: Bondage & BDSM
Topic: Sub drop
Replies: 4
Views: 1394

Sub drop

So, this week, for various reasons, I have had a bit of sub drop... And before anyone asks, yes there was aftercare. Though maybe not enough given the impact... Probably the worst case of it I have had for a long time and it has lasted two days so far... So, in this thread, how do you deal with sub ...
by fetishdj
05 Aug 2022, 16:34
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Hello !
Replies: 2
Views: 569

Re: Hello !

Hi and welcome
by fetishdj
02 Aug 2022, 07:07
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: hood vs. blindfold/gag
Replies: 3
Views: 1642

Re: hood vs. blindfold/gag

It's a different sensation. That completely wrapped up feeling - like a whole head hug. There is also the element of greater sensory deprivation. You haven't just lost sight but also some hearing (and putting ear plugs in at the same time enhances that) and some touch sensation too. This gives the d...
by fetishdj
17 Jul 2022, 18:26
Forum: Self-Bondage
Topic: Ties to sleep in?
Replies: 100
Views: 91523

Re: Ties to sleep in?

No one seems to have mentioned sleep sacks in this discussion (well one person mentioned encased in nylon, which is not quite the same). I've been in one for a short time before and, assuming you have your face uncovered so you can breathe, I cannot see any safety issues with it. Absolute immobility...
by fetishdj
14 Jul 2022, 17:41
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Manchester submissive
Replies: 0
Views: 485

Manchester submissive

HI, I'm a 48 year old male submissive based in Manchester. Been interested in BDSM for a long time and been involved with a number of Mistresses in the past. I was a bondage model back in the day but I am now more likely to be behind the camera (but will happily be in front if needed), I've had some...