Introduce yourself to the community, they won't bite... hard.
I am a man who has been around the scene for decades. I first put a chain around my neck when I was 6 and pretended that I was my babysitters pet. I love all kinds of bondage, especially if it involves totally restriction of movement. My favorite is being locked in chains from my neck to my ankles and not having any idea when I will be released. I crave the loss of control.