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Not sure if I can be called a real crossdresser, but here I am:
I have very limited and specific fantasies about cross dressing. I have never had the desire to put on a dress or to "pass" in public. My list of preferences include corsets, long gloves, suspender belts, stockings and heels. All must be black. My fantasy situation would be to have a domme order me to get dressed, then tie me up in that costume. My cross dressing fantasies always include bondage and domination.
So, question is: Is this real crossdressing? How many of you have such specific and limited desires?
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This could be an interesting discussion and I hope many others contribute. I don't think it's up to any of us, and certainly not to me, to determine what is a "real crossdresser".

I like to dress completely in a variety of female outfits and really wish I could pass as female in public. Everything from proper businesswoman, to French maid, to schoolgirl, to kinky slut. I often wear ballet tights & leotard to do my daily exercises. Often wear a bra & panties, stockings & garters or pantyhose under my boy clothes. I enjoy being tied up while dressed, but only when dressed in female clothes.

What to you other folks think?

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Interesting that JaniceNoyb is only interested in being bound while dressed and I am only interested in being dressed with bondage.
I do want to hear about any other specific and limited fetishes. I hope others respond.
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I like the feel of Womens clothes more than the look. Although i do like to see my legs in tights when i sit down etc. I am far too self conscious to go out in public crossdressed. The only time i have is once when i finished a night shift early, about 3am. Put on my tights and minidress under my work clothes that night because I would be finished early. When i got to my car i put my work clothes in the boot and drove home.

I love the excitement of buying ladies clothes online and waiting for it to arrive. Its just a shame that I always have to put on my boring man clothes to go out side.

As for bondage, as i said, i like the feel of crossdressing, and also love to be helplessly bound. The two together are a heady mix indeed.

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What about the specifics. Does anyone else have a fetish for really long leather gloves. I know this is not unique to me because I see them used in bondage porn with some frequency. The look dates to those early Irving Klaw photos with Betty Page. Dating myself here.
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dsteve wrote: 21 Dec 2022, 16:38 What about the specifics.
Tights for me. Any outfit has to have them, in fact thinking about it, my outfits are built around the tights. I also like bodysuits, although poppers are a pain and randomly pop open.

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I have limited 'Cross Dressing' desires as well, primarily linked to certain 'looks'.
More being bound like a 'Magicians Assistant' (shiny/sparkly leotard and tights) sometimes with heels or bare foot, depending on severity/mobility of the bondage. Or dressed as a specific type of heroine captured by 'her' foes. No desire to go out 'dressed', more for embarrassment if a non player should see me.
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so from what i understanding is you prefer to get tied up but as a 'girl'. which is something i can relate too.

while i has interest of crossdressing but originally the desire of this come from wanting to get tied up as a girl. i definitely wont get tied up without crossdressing. at beginning i want to crossdress because i want to get tied up. most of time i spend crossdressing now also due to selfbondage activity.

i believe crossdressing can be quite 'general' term. it is depend and there perhaps different type of it. whatever reason why or when, in the end what you do is indeed crossdressing. atleast thats how i see it.

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Haruka wrote: 27 Dec 2022, 13:21 so from what i understanding is you prefer to get tied up but as a 'girl'.
Not exactly, I enjoy the bondage primarily. But I like to vary the costumes, Tight Spandex briefs or shorts, Skimpy leather briefs,
Police Officer, Super hero (and heroine), sometimes just tights and boots, I have a leotard with built in single sleeve, and occasionally fully costumed (Dressed).
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I think there are as many definitions of 'crossdressing' as there are kinky people to be honest. It's therefore difficult to pin down. In most cases, it comes down to whether YOU feel like a crossdresser or not.

There is also a variance in the reasons for crossdressing. As in, there are different 'kinks'. For example, the underlying kink behind 'sissification', a variant of crossdressing, is humiliation kink - being forced to dress as a woman. This is the version that encourages the big pink dresses and the frills.

I am not sure where I lie myself, to be honest. I know I do not do it because of humiliation (and, personally, I'm a little uncomfortable with that aspect in the modern day - I don't consider being feminine to be a humiliation). Like others in this thread, I just enjoy the feel of the clothing. I'm also very jealous of the fact that men no longer have a real ability to peacock like they did in the 1700s - a lot of greys, blacks and browns - whereas women have the ability to wear very bright colours if they like.

My cross dressing began with one of my first Mistresses. We never discussed it, she just ordered me to wear the clothes and I did. She then used a make up brush to sign her name across my chest like a placeholder for a tattoo which I thought was very hot and progressed me over time into other feminine things like make up. Later Mistresses I played with continued to explore this with me. One even had me in her house on a 'girly night in' with vodka and orange and PJs.

I told one that I oddly felt more dominant when I was dressed to which all she would say was 'interesting'...

I did have the big think about whether I was trans or not a few years ago but came to the conclusion that I wasn't. But I also concluded I wasn't 'traditionally' male.

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All I can say is : Thank god for this forum. Thanks for letting us all know that we are not alone, and that there is no real explanation for the diversity of wants and needs we all have. We just have them.
Hope everyone is looking forward to a great 2023.
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I just love the feel and sensations of being dressed in a bra, tights (usually black) panties, satin slip, blouse and a skirt, either short and tight or short and flared, ala skater skirt. Plus a wig and heels of course. The feel of being dressed and walking about the house, making a meal, vacuuming, dusting or cleaning whilst dressed and "accidentally" catching my breasts with my arms, oh!

Just so relaxing and freeing.

Then, from time to time, I feel the need to be tied to a chair, whilst fully dressed, and secured to the chair so I have very little movement available, preferably with a butt plug and magic wand on a timer, blindfolded, gagged and even hooded for as long as I can make it. Sometimes I'll set a timer on my phone before I start getting ready so I have no idea of the time that it is when I start, nor how long it will be before the timer signals I am allowed to release myself/escape my bonds.

Just so peaceful and a wonderful time to be had as I struggle not to cum in my panties..

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j'adore m'habiller en femme ,collants ,bas,porte jarretelles et surtout escarpins ou sandales féminine . mon fantasme est devenir une femme en m'obligeant à souffrir de mes tétons pour avoir la sensation d'avoir des mamelles ,et ligoté mon sexe en le tirant au maximum entre mes jambes afin de sentir les ovaires d'une femme . j'aime travailler ainsi chez moi ,dans cette servitude que je m'impose . m'assoir sur mes testicules étranglées ,mes jambes revètues de bas ,et caresser le nylon ,me donne une immense jouissance et bien être

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